I wish I could tell you that my house is super clean and organized but the lie detector determined that is a lie!
I usually don’t make new year resolutions, but this year I did have certain goals I set for myself. One of them was to be on social media less. So after I posted my pictures from New Year’s Eve on New Year’s Day, I left all social media alone. January 2nd I actually had to delete the Facebook app from my phone because, unconsciously, I kept going to it as soon as I unlocked my phone. Every. Single. Time. Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Pinterest. I have them all. The ones taking most of my time were Facebook, where I constantly find out about the lives of people that I know as well as all the drama in all the mom groups I’m in, and Instagram where I endlessly stalk numerous strangers baby’s, homes, decor ideas, and lifestyle accounts. I mean I could spend hours just scrolling looking at those beautiful pictures. So this is what happened during my socialmedia-less month: 1. While my house may not be any more cleaner than usual, or not by a lot, I feel that I get my cleaning done faster and earlier in the day. Which, at least for me, makes it feel like my house in fact is cleaner. 2. I’ve been cooking wayyy more. Even on the weekend! Before 2018, I rarely cooked on the weekends. One of our goals as a family is to eat out less. We have financial goals to meet, so our $35 McAllister Friday night trips and our outback Saturday dinners are no longer an option. So with less scrolling, I’ve been able to cook more, and I actually don't mind as much as I thought I would. 3. In the first 31 days of 2018 I’ve been able to play more Pokémon cards games with Jayden than almost all 2017. Another of my goals this year is to be more present with my kids. They grow way too fast and I want to be able to give my kids as much attention as they want and need while they actually want it. So I’ve been saying “yes” more often to Jayden’s 35-45 minute Pokémon battles and board games. I also taught Jayden 2 songs on the piano. White they are the 2 out of 3 most basic songs that I know, “Twinkle twinkle little star” and “The sound of music”’s “do re mi” song, I’m still proud that I’ve been able to pass down to my son, the way my dad passed on those songs to me when I was about his age. 4. Lastly, my husband and I seem to have better days. Not that we have bad days, but we did notice that our days are even better than usual, which is always a plus. We both noticed it about halfway through the month. He mentioned us having some really good days recently and I reminded him it could be the fact that we are on social media less. (Me 0 engagement in social media, and while he still uses his, its less than his regular usage). Not being on our phones all the time allows us to just have conversations with each other and do more things around the house together. While my goal was never to get off social media forever, I found that I don’t NEED to be on social media. So now that I know that I can go all day without it, that’s the plan. I want to only sparingly use it throughout the day and maybe do some catching up at night time after the kids have gone to bed. How much time are you spending on social media? What would happen if you were on it less?
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It's that time in life, when your best friends are getting married and having babies. I mean, quite honestly, it doesn't seem like it stops. Wedding attendance will soon turn into baby shower attendance, too. But, that's what life is about. Supporting your friends and family in their next steps of life; their most important steps in life. For every future bride out there, I am here to help. To you bridesmaids and friends of the brides, listen up...here are 8 things the bride wishes she could tell you without being titled that infamous word. The "B" word. 1. It is a-okay to turn down your bridesmaid invitation. Honestly. Maybe it's finances, maybe it's life, maybe it's the bride..whatever the case may be, if you're thinking you can't handle the responsibilities of planning a bridal shower, attending a bachelorette party, and/or buying a dress just say NO. No love lost. In fact, you're probably perserving love lost in the long run.
2. Yes, I expect you to be present at all events. News flash!! She's your best friend? But you aren't attending all of the events that lead up to the most important day of her life? I mean, she only get this stage of life once. Be there. In fact, you have 10-15 months to save and prepare for all of the events. Where there is a will, there is a way. 3. How dare you complain about the cost? You're paying $150 for a bridesmaid dress, $700ish for a bachelorette party, $50 for a gift, and $200 for hair and make-up, well your friend is paying around $30,000 on the wedding. She doesn't want to hear your complaints, and if you think it's too much revisit #1. 4. This isn't about you! I guarantee she doesn't want to hear about what dress you're going to wear when you get married. You shouldn't feel entitled to anything: bridesmaid invite, maid-of-honor title, plus-1's and more plus-1's, her paying for your make-up, etc. 5. Check on me! I mean this is your friends wedding and chances are she wants to share details with you, and she wants you to ask her about them. A little checking in text goes a long way. 6. Respond to all correspondence. A simple "thumbs up" is better than no response at all. The bride texts you about the day-of agenda, yes it's 300 days away. Yes, that's far-off in your mind, but be considerate. Say "Thanks" or give a "thumbs-up" if you don't have much else to add. Communicate, communicate, communicate ladies! 7. Let me be the only one in white. This goes for everything. Engagement party, bachelorette party, bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and wedding! I mean this shouldn't even have to be said, but after watching WAGS the other night people tend to "forget". 8. Treat my wedding like your own. We all haven't been there and some of us have, but try your hardest to treat her how you'd want to be treated during your planning process. Just be mindful, your best friend only gets this chance once. |
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