It's that time in life, when your best friends are getting married and having babies. I mean, quite honestly, it doesn't seem like it stops. Wedding attendance will soon turn into baby shower attendance, too. But, that's what life is about. Supporting your friends and family in their next steps of life; their most important steps in life. For every future bride out there, I am here to help. To you bridesmaids and friends of the brides, listen up...here are 8 things the bride wishes she could tell you without being titled that infamous word. The "B" word. 1. It is a-okay to turn down your bridesmaid invitation. Honestly. Maybe it's finances, maybe it's life, maybe it's the bride..whatever the case may be, if you're thinking you can't handle the responsibilities of planning a bridal shower, attending a bachelorette party, and/or buying a dress just say NO. No love lost. In fact, you're probably perserving love lost in the long run.
2. Yes, I expect you to be present at all events. News flash!! She's your best friend? But you aren't attending all of the events that lead up to the most important day of her life? I mean, she only get this stage of life once. Be there. In fact, you have 10-15 months to save and prepare for all of the events. Where there is a will, there is a way. 3. How dare you complain about the cost? You're paying $150 for a bridesmaid dress, $700ish for a bachelorette party, $50 for a gift, and $200 for hair and make-up, well your friend is paying around $30,000 on the wedding. She doesn't want to hear your complaints, and if you think it's too much revisit #1. 4. This isn't about you! I guarantee she doesn't want to hear about what dress you're going to wear when you get married. You shouldn't feel entitled to anything: bridesmaid invite, maid-of-honor title, plus-1's and more plus-1's, her paying for your make-up, etc. 5. Check on me! I mean this is your friends wedding and chances are she wants to share details with you, and she wants you to ask her about them. A little checking in text goes a long way. 6. Respond to all correspondence. A simple "thumbs up" is better than no response at all. The bride texts you about the day-of agenda, yes it's 300 days away. Yes, that's far-off in your mind, but be considerate. Say "Thanks" or give a "thumbs-up" if you don't have much else to add. Communicate, communicate, communicate ladies! 7. Let me be the only one in white. This goes for everything. Engagement party, bachelorette party, bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and wedding! I mean this shouldn't even have to be said, but after watching WAGS the other night people tend to "forget". 8. Treat my wedding like your own. We all haven't been there and some of us have, but try your hardest to treat her how you'd want to be treated during your planning process. Just be mindful, your best friend only gets this chance once.
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